The great jazz musician Miles Davis is reported to have said, “When you hit a wrong note, it’s the next note that you play that determines if it’s good or bad.” The next note can make the situation worse, or it can make what seemed like a wrong note sound right. This is true for music, and it is double true when you are telling your family that you are leaving the church. After the initial, “I’m leaving” or “I have left the church,” what comes next can make all of the difference. Say the right thing, and you can smooth your path with your family out of the church. Botch this and no matter what you say they will take it as someone screaming how great tea tastes from the great and spacious building. So, like a well-cleared path out of Mormonism (and you can say that now), here is the Mormon (or maybe Exmormon) Tabernacle Enquirer guide to follow-up statements after telling your family that you are leaving the church.