The Curry’s dramatic marital turnaround began when Jen’s
sister told her about her imminent divorce. What seems to have been most disconcerting for Jen was that her sister’s marriage
was not ending because of abuse, excessive fighting, money problems, infidelity, or other dramatic shifts. Instead, Jen noted that “my sister and her
husband just grew so far apart that they could no longer even really
communicate, and soon there was nothing left to their relationship.”
In response to her sister’s divorce, Jen noted that “I realized that
writing for three blogs, keeping up with and commenting frequently on several
others as well as being on Facebook and other social media was starting to
take the place of what I was missing in my marriage.”
Jen spoke with Mike about this, and both agreed to seek counseling
and set a regular date night. “At first
it was difficult,” reported Jen. “It was
awkward and sometimes painful, and when that happened, you know, I just wanted
to escape of into Pinterest.” But Jen and Mike stuck with
it, and Jen soon found that her interest in social media waned as her marriage
strengthened.
“Now,” commented Jen, “instead of replying to every post
about modesty or home schooling or couponing, I try to think of
some ways that Mike and I could connect and enjoy time together.”
For his part, Mike reported that he has not made any
changes. “I don’t do the whole blog thing,
and I think it has been 7 months since I was on Facebook.” But Mike did admit that this year he is
managing only 2 fantasy football teams. In contrast, last year Mike had 11 fantasy football teams, managed 4
different leagues, and could name the top 30 running backs faster than he could identify his wife’s church calling.
Hmmm - does this ring a few bells
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